At the risk of making you uncomfortable…
…I was raped when I was 17. People look at me with pity when I say this, and then try to change the subject. I totally understand that response. But really - it’s not my fault, and sometimes I want to scream it from the tallest mountain in the world so I can let it go and give it back to the world. But that makes everyone else uncomfortable. This is why (analytically) I become victimized twice (I am rejecting both). I should be able to talk about it when I want - I should be able to remind people that it’s a reality and that it’s happened to someone they know. I shouldn’t have to give a shit that it makes people feel uncomfortable, but women are taught to make everyone else happy. I’m not really into that and so from now on, I’m saying it when I need to say it. I was raped. I’m whole, I’m a person, I’m fine.